Madness takes it's toll

Because I felt the need to respond to this: http://www.scarymommy.com/another-boy/

I given birth to 3 daughters, with the bonus kids there are 5 young women to whom I have to at least attempt to NOT be the worlds worst role model, and Lee is stuck with the potential of helping to pay for 5 weddings and college funds. Joy. That said having girls is pretty darn great and we were both thrilled to find out the baby G was female gendered when we were pregnant with her. That said, the rest of society seems to think that all people want the perfect balance of boy-girl children and can't possible fathom why we weren't utterly devastated to have won the estrogen lottery yet again.

10) Oh don't worry the next one is bound to be a boy.

Thank you for assuming we are so disappointed with the gender of this child that we obviously have to rush right into spawning a fourth/sixth minion. 5 college funds is a lot, heck 3 college funds is a lot. And whether or not we want to expand our family (spoiler alert, we don't) isn't really something that's up for public debate, thanks though.

9) Well you must have WANTED a boy.

Um, no, not really, we wanted a health baby, prior to wanting a healthy baby, we just wanted to have some adult fun, but surprise, here we go, a baby, how exciting. To be completely honest we both were hoping for a girl, we both have experience raising little girls and were much more comfortable with the idea of a baby girl. That's not to say we'd have tossed a boy out the window, but we by all means were not disappointed to learn she had girl parts not boy parts.

8) You're going to be in trouble when they get to be teenagers!

Yes, yes we are, JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER PARENT. Yes, with girls come hormones, and periods and breasts. With boys come hormones, erections, and physical energy. Teens are hard, for everyone, just because our society largely glosses over male adolescence doesn't make it easy, for the parents of penis owners comes the need to teach about respecting women, and sexuality, not to mention a thousand other things. For the parents of vagina owners comes the need to teach about menstruation, body image, and sexuality, not to mention a thousand other things. All of these are hard chats, having a house full of girls just means they also have older sisters to go to when they need advice, not just mom.

7) At least you don't have to buy all new toys/clothes/baby stuff.

Well actually we do, because there are 5 years between my youngest-turned middle daughter, and 18 years between his youngest-turned middle daughter and neither of us expected to have a new baby not to mention the rules for cribs and carseats changed at some point while we didn't have a baby in the house so buying all new stuff (whether pink and frilly or full of race cars and dinosaurs) was something we'd have to do anyway.

6) Your husband must be so disappointed!

*sigh* See #9

5) My sisters and I can't stand each other!

Well, that's a shame, I'm sorry to hear that, how that relates to me and my children I'm not too sure, if we're just shouting random personal trivia, then uh, I like pizza. If you are in some way implying that all sisters hate each other, I can assure you that's true, at some point, all siblings fight regardless of gender, hopefully you and your sisters will work it out eventually.

4) Well think of all the money you'll save on sports equipment!

Right, 1910 called and wants your archaic ideals back. Did you know women even have the right to VOTE now? Shocked I'm sure.

3)  You'd better be careful to raise little ladies, you wouldn't want to be one of those mom's with a slutty pregnant teenager.

I don't even know where to start with this one. No of course I don't want my kids having babies as teenagers, I want them to get good educations, good paying jobs, settle down with someone who respects them, loves them and treats them right. That said, being a "lady" in that sense isn't on my list of concerns, teaching my children to be sexually responsible, oh yes that's right up there with basic self defense, knowing how to pump gas and change a tire, and never expecting the man to pay for dinner, whether or not they choose to be sexually promiscuous isn't something I'm too concerned with, that they are educated on how their bodies work, have access to birth control and the understanding of how to use it, those are more important parts of "being a lady" than just closing your legs.

2) You must just LOVE having little girls you can dress up like little dolls.

Yes my girls are incapable of independent thought and let me tell them how to dress and how to think.

1)  Well at least you'll probably end up with grandchildren/Just think you'll be able to teach them to bake like you/At least the older ones will help with the baby.

Yes, because male children can't lean to cook or bake, men don't produce grandchildren, and the older girls must all be hyper maternal and would have refused to help with a male baby. *sigh* your children will all have their own interests regardless of their gender, my eldest loves to draw and dress up in pretty clothes. My middle child loves to bake, couldn't care less about her hair and is amazing with puzzles and math problems, and the baby just loves to dance and stomp and eat me out of house and home.

All children are precious, regardless of gender and I am not the least bit disappointed with all girls.

As a side note, I went to highschool with the woman who wrote the original piece, and uh she doesn't seem to have changed much since then.