We stuck it out much longer than we should have. You're absolutely right about the healer personality, I've foudn myself in her position in other relationships where as someone else got stronger/less needy I became resentful as they appreciated my (the only word that comes to mind is "smothering", but that's not quite what I mean) less and eventually I was cast asside as being too needy.

In an ideal world people with damage would work on the healing before getting involved with other people, but I suspect that's one of those mistakes you need to make in life in order to learn the full extent of the lesson.

Thanks for the comment :)